What do you prefer? Shall I come to you with a rod of discipline, or shall I come in love and with a gentle spirit? (NIV)
Now which do you prefer? Shall I come to you with a rod of correction, or with love and in a spirit of gentleness? (AMP)
What will ye? shall I come unto you with a rod, or in love, and in the spirit of meekness? (KJV)